Wednesday, September 10, 2008

How Far Should a Role Model Go?

2008 has definitely been a great year of boundary busting. From politics to the Olympics we're seeing ucommon levels of achievement that inspire millions and make them feel like an integral piece of the American fabric.

In the Olympics we cheered swimmer Michael Phelps on to win an unprecedented eight gold medals. Teammate Cullen Jones also received recognition for being yet another of the few African-Americans to win a medal as a swimmer.

Even the crazy world of politics offers us an experience of firsts - presenting an African-American, a female, and two senior citizens. No matter the outcome, history will be made.

A lot of people will look at these accomplishments and revel in how Phelps, Jones, Obama, Palin, McCain, and Biden are role models who show us that we can do it too. While I accept that hopeful sentiment produced in a lot of people, I'm afraid that this whole concept of a role model bothers me at some point.

While there's nothing wrong with my daughter, Chloe, looking at a female and believing that she too can become VP, I desire that she have a stronger internal source of motivation. Instead of saying, "I can do it because I see a ______ "(fill in the blank: multi-racial, youth, black, white, female, etc), I would much rather she say, "I have a dream. I know what I want, so I'm going to go for it. I don't need to see someone who looks like me in order for me to believe I can achieve my goals." I hope her faith in God fuels this confidence. What she can learn from the Olympians and politicians is that they pursued their callings DESPITE the absence of demographically-identical "role models".

Think about it. Why do we as a country still unofficially require demographic proof and validation? Do I really need to see a black person swim in order for me to believe I can do the same? Do we need to doubt a white running back simply because there are very few running backs of his color? This guy could be the next big thing.

To make the point short: It's okay to be the first. It's okay to be the 100th. Just don't feel you have to wait to be the first.